Someone said, “You people are doing the Hallelujah Challenge and still living together?” And as usual, the internet went up in flames. Some said, “Everyone sins differently,” while others called it compromise.

But beyond the noise, it’s a real conversation worth having. Because honestly, many couples who live together before marriage aren’t necessarily trying to rebel. Some say it’s about “testing compatibility”, seeing how someone lives, reacts, cleans, plans, or even snores. They believe you can’t really know a person until you’ve shared the same space.

There’s also a new kind of normal that many people don’t even question anymore — couples living together before marriage. For some, it’s just practical. Rent is high, you’re already spending all your time together, and honestly, it feels like the next natural step. But for others, it raises the question: where do faith and modern love meet?

Still, the Bible gives us a different framework for intimacy. Hebrews 13:4 says marriage should be honoured, and the marriage bed kept pure. Cohabitation, more often than not, blurs that line. It’s not just about sharing rent or furniture, it’s about sharing access that should come after covenant.

The Bible paints marriage as a covenant, not a test run. And that covenant is meant to protect, not restrict. Because when emotions, habits, and even finances start to blend before commitment, it becomes harder to walk away when things go wrong. What started as “testing compatibility” can easily turn into confusion or compromise.

But here’s the nuance: this isn’t about shame or judgment. It’s about wisdom. Living together before marriage might give the illusion of closeness, but it can also breed emotional fatigue or delay real commitment. The deeper question is, “What’s the foundation of our relationship — convenience or covenant?”

And maybe the issue isn’t about pointing fingers but checking our motives. If the goal is to build something lasting, God’s order is never to limit love but to protect it. When we choose God’s order, we’re not being old-fashioned; we’re protecting something sacred.

Because real intimacy isn’t proven by proximity — it’s proven by purpose. Real love doesn’t need a rehearsal. It needs trust, patience, and commitment — in the right order.

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But here’s the thing: the Bible never presented submission as slavery. It was never a demand for women to shrink or silence themselves. Ephesians 5 says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” But just two verses down, the men are told: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

That’s not casual love. That’s sacrificial, protective, soul-deep love. And it puts as much weight, maybe even more, on the man as it does on the woman.

When you read the full passage, submission in marriage isn’t about losing your voice, blind obedience, or shrinking yourself. The Bible never presented it as slavery or silence. What it is about is partnership — two people carrying responsibility in different but equally important ways: one in loving leadership, the other in trusting support.

I’ll admit, the word used to make me uncomfortable. It felt like it erased individuality. But looking closer, I realised it’s not about erasing, it’s about reflecting. Reflecting love. Reflecting trust. Reflecting God’s design for unity that honours both voices.

The problem isn’t submission itself, it’s how we’ve misused it. Culture turned it into domination. Scripture calls it devotion.

So maybe the question isn’t should women still submit in 2025? Maybe it’s: are both of us willing to do the work — to love, to honour, to serve — the way God asked us to?

The Bible never asked women to lose themselves. It asked both men and women to give themselves.

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For me, it’s a mix. Words of affirmation mean a lot, but only when they’re backed up with actions. Tell me I’m doing well, yes, but let me also feel it in the way you show up for me. That’s when it sticks.

I also light up at gifts, but not in the big, bougie way people think. It’s not about price tags; it’s about thought. A snack I mentioned in passing. A book I’d been eyeing. It’s the surprise that says, “I paid attention.” That kind of gift feels like love wrapped in a ribbon. And I think that’s the real heart of gifts as a love language — it’s not materialism, it’s mindfulness. It’s knowing that someone heard you, remembered, and wanted to make you smile.

At the same time, I’ve noticed how I love others. I lean toward acts of kindness. I like to buy things for the people I care about, do small things that make life easier for them. That’s my way of saying, “I see you. I’ve got you.”

But here’s the bigger truth: love languages aren’t just about me, or you, or what comes naturally. They’re about paying attention to what fills someone else’s tank. Because the way I want love shown to me isn’t always the way someone else needs it. And loving well means being intentional enough to meet them there.

That’s why love languages still matter. They remind us that love is more than just a feeling; it’s an action. It’s the little choices that add up: sending that text, planning that date, giving that hug, or buying that snack. It’s not about grand gestures, it’s about consistent ones.

It’s also not about guessing or assuming, but learning the “language” that makes your person feel safe, seen, and valued. And when you both commit to that? That’s where the magic really happens.

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Here’s where I’ve landed (for now): I still believe in “the one”, but not the way movies write it. I think “the one” is the person you can build oneness with: someone whose values align with yours, who chooses you back, and with whom you can grow through the regular, non-cinematic parts of life. Not a magical, perfect fit, but a purposeful, faithful fit.

From a Christian angle, this helped me breathe: God already knows who I’ll end up with, He’s all-knowing. That doesn’t mean there’s only one possible person roaming the earth with my name on their forehead. It means that within His will, when two people choose each other and choose covenant, God can bless that union and make it “the one.” In other words, my soulmate isn’t just found; they’re also formed—through daily yeses, forgiveness, shared purpose, and commitment.

That also means I don’t have to live scared that I’ll “miss” God’s plan like a bus I didn’t run fast enough to catch. If I take a wrong turn, He knows the route better than I do. He can reroute. He can redeem. He’s not fragile, and neither is His ability to write a good story with less-than-perfect humans.

Do I still love the romance of believing there’s someone out there who gets me in a way no one else does? Absolutely. But I’m learning to test that feeling with real questions:
— Do we want the same kind of life, not just the same kind of wedding?
— Can we disagree without destroying each other?
— Do we both tell the truth, keep promises, and come back to the table when it’s hard?
— Do our faith, character, and rhythms of life support the love we say we want?

Because chemistry will start a fire, but character keeps the house warm.

And what about the hard realities—breakups, divorces, years of singleness? This is where my old idea of soulmates felt too brittle. Life is complicated. People change. Hearts heal. Sometimes the person you thought was “it” was only your person for a season. That doesn’t make your story a failure; it means you’re human. And when love does show up, it won’t feel like you missed it; it will feel like it was always meant to arrive when it did.

So are soulmates real? I think so, just not as destiny you might fumble, but as destiny you build. For me, a soulmate is the person I choose within God’s will, who chooses me back, again and again. It’s discovery and decision. It’s prayer, wisdom, laughter, repentance, and showing up in the ordinary Tuesdays.

Maybe the question isn’t “Is there only one person for me?”
Maybe it’s “Who can I become one with—before God and with His help?”

That’s the love I believe in: not fragile, not fatalistic—just faithful.

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Some say marrying for money is shallow. But is wanting security shallow? Is wanting to know you won’t have to stress over every bill a bad thing? Because the truth is, financial peace of mind can feel like a love language on its own.

Still, here’s where it gets tricky. Money can open doors, yes, but it can’t hold a conversation with you at midnight when life feels heavy. It won’t celebrate your wins with genuine joy, or choose kindness when things get rough. If all you have is money, the relationship can start to feel like a business transaction dressed up as romance.

And if all you have is love with no stability, the pressure can chip away at even the strongest bond. Constant financial fights and resentment can make something sweet turn sour.

So maybe it’s not about whether you can marry for money. It’s about what you’re willing to sacrifice if money is the only thing holding you there. Because money can build a house, but it can’t build a home. Love can make your heart race, but it can’t pay the bills. Both matter, but in different ways and the balance is what makes the difference.

The truth is, no one has the “perfect” answer. For some, financial security will always outweigh romance. For others, love is the only currency that counts. What matters is being honest about what you value most, and choosing a partner whose vision of “enough” matches yours. That’s the real secret, not money alone, not love alone, but alignment.

Because at the end of the day, it’s not about choosing between love or money. It’s about being honest with yourself about what kind of life you want to build and who you trust to build it with.

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But here’s the truth: God’s timing is never rushed, and neither should you be. Balancing it all: career, love, and purpose without losing yourself starts with trusting His pace, not the pressure of timelines set by society or social media.

Your career? Give it your all, but don’t let it define you. Your dreams? Chase them, but don’t let them consume you. And love? It’s beautiful but it’s not a prize for getting everything else right. Christian dating advice isn’t about choosing between success and love, it’s about trusting that God’s plan can hold both.

The waiting season can feel frustrating, but it’s also a time of preparation. Maybe you’re learning patience, resilience, or how to fully embrace yourself before stepping into a new chapter. God doesn’t delay just to test you, He prepares you so that when your moment comes, you’re ready to handle it.

Also, let’s talk about peace. When you’re walking in alignment with God’s timing, there’s a different kind of confidence that comes with it. You don’t feel the need to rush or force things because you know what’s yours won’t miss you. That’s why the best thing you can do this season is to enjoy where you are, cultivate joy, and trust that God is still at work even when you can’t see it yet.

So instead of God, when?, what if the real question is God, how do I trust you here? Keep showing up, keep growing, and keep believing. What’s meant for you will come without you losing yourself to get it.

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1. Letters to Juliet (Apple TV – 1hr 45min)

A love letter lost for decades, a breathtaking trip to Italy, and a journey to reunite soulmates? Letters to Juliet is for the hopeless romantics who believe true love stands the test of time.

2. 13 Going on 30 (Netflix, Prime Video – 1hr 38min)

This classic is the perfect mix of romance and nostalgia! Jenna wakes up in her 30-year-old self’s body, only to realize that maybe growing up isn’t what she expected. And maybe… the love she’s always wanted had been right in front of her.

3. Forever My Girl (YouTube – 1hr 48min)

If you love a good second-chance romance, this one’s for you! A country music star ditches fame to return home, face his past, and try to win back the love of his life. Small-town love? Yes, please!

4. Fireproof (Apple TV, Amazon Video – 2hr 2min)

A firefighter fights to save more than just burning buildings—he fights for his marriage. This inspiring story reminds us that love is about effort, commitment, and sometimes, a little divine intervention.

5. Redeeming Love (Apple TV, Peacock TV – 2hr 14min)

Based on the bestselling novel, Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers. This is a deeply emotional story of love, faith, and second chances. If you love powerful, life-changing romance, this one will have you reaching for the tissues.

6. Someone Like You (Apple TV, Google Play Movies – 1hr 58min)

A grieving architect sets out to find his best friend’s secret twin, only to discover a connection he never expected. This one is a heartfelt mix of love, loss, and destiny.

7. I Still Believe (Apple TV, Prime Video – 1hr 56min)

Love, faith, and music collide in the true story of Christian music star Jeremy Camp. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions but ultimately proves that love and hope can survive even the hardest moments.

8. 2 Hearts (Apple TV, Amazon Video – 1hr 41min)

Two love stories, two different timelines, and one unexpected connection. 2 Hearts is for those who love fate-driven romances that remind us everything happens for a reason.

9. A Week Away (Netflix – 1hr 37min)

A Christian summer camp, an unexpected love story, and catchy songs that will have you singing along. This feel-good musical is perfect if you love lighthearted, faith-filled romance.

10. Purple Hearts (Netflix – 2hr 2min)

A marriage of convenience between a struggling singer and a Marine turns into something more when real emotions get involved. Love, heartbreak, and a little bit of military drama? Best believe we’re sat!

Whether you’re in the mood for a faith-filled romance, a classic rom-com, or a love story that defies all odds, these movies have you covered. Which one are you watching first? Let’s talk in the comments! 

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If you need a little pick-me-up right now, here are some beautiful Bible verses to help brighten up your days:

Philippians 4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Psalm 46:1-3
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.

Romans 8:38-39
No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.

Deuteronomy 31:6
Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

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Many failed toxic relationships have been excused with the “love is blind phrase. However, what many fail to really realise is that love isn’t abrupt or out of the blue – it is the result of a series of intentional acts.

Think about it. How can you know if you truly love someone when you barely know that person? You may think you know this person — that’s what love does to us — but you don’t. People think they fall in love all the time, but they’re not truly in love.

Falling in love can lead to actually being in love, and being in love can lead to actual loving. And in order for you to love, you need to choose to love. You need to choose to be loving. You need to look at the person you’re with and choose to love that person all over again – even and especially when – it’s not convenient.

The same concept applies to friendships and even familial relationships. We allow ourselves become drawn into toxicity where we are still in control and can choose where we focus our energies. The idea is to lead a healthy life in mind, body and soul. Why then do we allow negativity take up that space? Perhaps it is because we have become accustomed to feeling that it is what we deserve, or we do not love ourselves just yet or we simply are unaware of the fact that we do have a choice.

Instead, we like to mistake love for Chemistry. Chemistry being uncontrollable chemical reactions which occur outside of our control. hydrogen and chlorine will result in hydrochloride and voila! That’s where it ends. Wrong.

Love is not chemistry, it is voluntary. You must choose to do it. It won’t be easy. It’s easier when the person you’re with is right for you, it’s easier when you’re choosing to love those that will be beneficial to your growth and strength.

I hope we make the best decisions regarding where we choose to invest our energies. So many people seem to be in situations that could have been avoided if they had just trusted themselves enough to let go. It is important to value yourself and your well being above all else.

You can choose who you love and you can choose happiness.

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However, that’s all done now because Molly (her character name on Insecure) bagged herself a man and interestingly enough, he’s also on that journey of abstinence, is Nigerian (his Igbo name is Chinedum) and he has a job (he’s a former NFL player turned ESPN Analyst). Talk about a dunk in the net!

The couple is currently on vacation in Mexico, and they aren’t being shy about making the rest of us jealous on Instagram. From sandy workouts on the beach to the ocean view, to, of course, taking a few relationship goal photos for Instagram (PS: We know we told you not to buy into #couplegoals, we haven’t forgotten but finding someone on the same spiritual journey as you is always worth celebrating. We know how hard it is out here in the streets, let’s celebrate with a sister).

The couple has been dating for a couple of months, although we’re not sure how long, the actress made it instagram official in May.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BjAyZmhHvJ8/?taken-by=yvonneorji

Anyway, let’s get right down to it. Here’s the prayer she says she prayed to find this fine man:

“Dear God,
May he have abs like David
Skin like Sampson
A smile like Joseph
Fingernails like Solomon
Eyebrows like John The Baptist & A heart (and finances) like yours
In Jesus’ Name
Amen”

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Can I get an Amen somebody?

Photo Credit: Instagram|Yvonne Orji

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