Destiny’s Child was arguably one of the most successful all-girl band before the depature of Letoya and Latavia in January 2000. Both ladies left the group to find new management after financial disputes and disagreements with manager, Mathew Knowles, over his preferential treatment towards his daughter, Beyonce and Kelly Rowland.

What people thought was an amicable split soon turned ugly when the “Say My Name” video which debuted a month after they exited the group, featured two new members Michelle Williams and Farrah Franklin in their place. In several media interviews, the ousted group members would reveal that they weren’t even aware that they had been replace until they saw this video.

The legal battles and public war of words that ensued thereafter severed the band’s connections with the two former founding members.

Over a decade later, the forgiveness that seemed elusive for the ladies has finally been found – though fans wished for this reconciliation many years ago. Recently, Beyonce was seen with Latavia and Letoya respectively on two seperate occasions during her co-tour with Jay Z, OTRII.

Two things their reunion teaches us is that time heals wounds and forgiveness is possible.

Though forgiveness seems like a simple concept, it remains one of the difficult things for us to give, especially because of the negative thoughts that keep us miserable when we attempt to forgive — “You were wronged.” “Forgiving means you are weak”. “Hold on to the anger.” “Don’t let them off that easy”

However, the purpose of forgiveness is not to forget or deny hurt nor is it primarily about reconciling with the offender. It’s about taking power over how we choose to respond.

If you are struggling to let go and forgive, here are a few nuggets to keep in mind:

When we choose to hold on to hurt, pain, resentment, and anger it harms us far more than it harms the person that has caused us hurt or pain. Forgiveness allows you to put the burden down and let go.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute if the strong.” ~ Gandhi

Forgiveness lets you regain your own power by allowing you to control the situation by the way you react to it. We maintain anger, regret, hatred, or resentment towards someone and give up our power to others when we refuse to forgive – we allow ourselves to become weak.

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody”- Maya Angelou

Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, to be at peace and to be happy. You’re not doing this for them, you’re doing it for yourself, to set yourself free from the feelings of hurt and anger. Many people waste years of their lives in bitterness and resentment when they could, through forgiveness, have lived that time in happiness.

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” — Paul Boese

We can’t erase the past, but we can choose to let go of the pain in order to live a happier, more fulfilling life.

You may recall that Bey was supposed to headline last year’s festival, but canceled due to doctor’s orders, because she was pregnant with twins (Sir and Rumi Carter) at the time. Her performance was so worth the wait! And gosh Bey’s post-pregnancy snapback game is out of this world. We need her to show us the way.

Okay, so in case you don’t know what “Coachella” is girls, Wikipedia and Google are your friends: The Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival (commonly referred to as Coachella or the Coachella Festival) is an annual music and arts festival held at the Empire Polo Club in Indio, California, located in the Inland Empire’s Coachella Valley in the Colorado Desert. The event features musical artists from many genres of music, including rock, indie, hip hop, and electronic dance music, as well as art installations and sculptures.

So back to the matter: Beyonce’s performance. It was two hours long. Two whole hours of amazing performances back-to-back. Her hubby, Jay-Z and sister, Solange made appearances.

But most importantly, there was a Destiny’s Child reunion! This was by far our favourite part of the entire performance.

A DESTINY’S CHILD REUNION MEDLEY WE DESERVED. #BEYCHELLA pic.twitter.com/qqOsXaB6FG

— . (@ctrlbrian) April 15, 2018

Michelle Williams and Kelly Rowland looked and sounded great but we think it would have been even more epic if original band members Letoya Luckett and LaTavia Roberson were added to the mix. Now, THAT would have been THE reunion of a lifetime.

Here are other highlights we loved:

• “Crazy in Love” performance in which she was accompanied by a New Orleans-style brass marching band. It was a fresh take on the song
• The step dancers during her performance of songs on the “Lemonade” album. EPIC
• Nina Simone tribute and Malcolm X Quotes
• When Beyonce and her band paid homage to Fela Kuti

Beyoncé and Jay-Z will kick off their joint “On the Run II” tour this summer, and we can’t wait.