This is the quiet quitting that’s happening in churches today, and not just among the occasional churchgoers, but among women who once led small groups, served faithfully, gave generously, and showed up consistently. Christians who love Jesus deeply, but for one reason or another, don’t feel at home in church anymore.

Some have left because of burnout. They gave and gave until they felt invisible. Others left because of church hurt, the kind that doesn’t always make headlines, but leaves real bruises. Judgment dressed up as concern. Gossip behind the guise of accountability. Leadership that demanded loyalty but offered no real support. Moments where vulnerability was met with silence or worse, shame. And then some simply drifted. Life changed. Priorities shifted. And now they’re wondering if anyone even noticed they stopped coming.

But this isn’t about blame. This is about honesty.

Because underneath it all is a longing, a longing for connection, for truth that isn’t sugarcoated or performative. A desire to be seen, not just for what you can do, but for who you really are. A hunger for a church that doesn’t just preach community, but embodies it.

And what does all of this say about us Christians?

It says that many of us are exhausted with religion that feels mechanical. We’re tired of the pressure to perform. We’re craving depth. We want sermons that speak to our real lives, mental health, questions, and disappointments. We want leaders who are honest about their own struggles. We want safe spaces, not just structured services.

But here’s the twist: many of us who’ve quietly stepped back still love Jesus. Still pray. Still worship. Still hope. We just don’t know where we fit anymore. And that’s the tension: loving God, but feeling distant from His people.

So what now?

If you’re the one who’s stepped back, know this: you’re not strange, or broken, or faithless. You’re human. And maybe this is your pause, but not your end. Don’t give up on the body of Christ. Maybe you just need to heal. Maybe you need something smaller, slower, more honest.

The church is not perfect, but Christians are meant to support, uplift, and walk alongside each other. Scripture reminds us not to forsake the gathering of fellow believers (Hebrews 10:25), not out of obligation, but because community is one of the ways God heals, strengthens, and grows us. 

If church hurt is what’s keeping you away, consider talking to someone you trust in the faith community or seeking counsel. Healing often begins with honest conversations, even with leaders you may feel betrayed by. Pray for restoration, ask God to give you the courage to confront the pain, and allow Him to guide you through it.

And if you’re still plugged in and wondering why people are drifting, check in. Reach out. Not to fix them, but to see them. Ask better questions. Make space for honest answers. Be the kind of church you wish you had when you were struggling.

Quiet quitting doesn’t have to be the last chapter. Maybe it’s just the part where we rewrite how we do community—less pressure, more presence. Less hype, more healing. Less perfect church girl energy. More grace.

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When the Devil Wears a Robe

False prophets don’t show up looking like villains. They come with charisma, deep revelations, and sometimes even miracles but Jesus already warned us about this. Remember Matthew 7:15? “Beware of false prophets who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.” Translation? They look holy, but their hearts tell a different story.

Social media has only made things trickier. But Stephanie reminds us: God doesn’t call people based on social media engagement. In an era where social media can turn anyone into a “spiritual leader” overnight, the need for discernment is greater than ever. 

How to Spot the Fakes

Pastor Stephanie breaks it down, it’s not about how powerful someone sounds, but about the fruit they produce. Miracles, charisma, and powerful messages don’t always equal a true calling from God. The real question is, do their lives reflect humility, integrity, and a heart for God? 

Another warning sign? Manipulation. Many false teachers prey on desperation, promising breakthroughs, financial miracles, and life-changing prophecies, often in exchange for money. Real prophets lead people to Jesus, not to their bank accounts.

So, How Do you Stay Safe?

The answer is simple but powerful: Know God for yourself. If you’re constantly relying on prophets to hear God’s voice for you, it’s time to strengthen your personal relationship with Him. Read the Word. Pray. Listen to the Holy Spirit.

Stephanie leaves us with this: Real prophets bring people closer to God, not closer to themselves. They don’t just preach; they live out the gospel. So before you fall for the next “anointed” voice, ask yourself—does this person reflect Jesus or just perform for an audience?

At the end of the day, discernment is your best defense. Because while false prophets may rise, the truth will always stand.

Watch the full video by Stephanie Ike Okafor here:

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The fashionable pastor, who recently turned 30, shared her thoughts on how we don’t have to physically be in the physical four walls of a church to affirm our Christianity. Rather, we as Christians ARE THE CHURCH.

See her post below:

I remember thinking that loving God had only one look. I remember feeling like my name may never make it in that book. Then one day I realized that I had forced the power of God’s love and acceptance to be synonymous with an experience we call church people and that’s where I messed it all up.
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The truth is that when we come into the building we call church it’s not because the people are perfect or because we’re perfectly understood. It is the place where you should feel and be filled with the presence of God. So I’m not looked for perfection, I’m searching for the presence. The presence will challenge you to love, convict you to change destructive patterns and thoughts. It will entice you to forgive the unforgivable and move forward with hope. It should transform you by renewing your your mind. When that occurs you will leave those four walls behind, but you will be a living breathing church.
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There’s a difference between attending church and being a church. Some people may never walk into the building that we call church, but when they shake your hand, see your smile, hear your love and compassion they should have an encounter that is so different they become curious about your light.
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In a world full of gloom and doom I hope you choose to become a light and that you shine so bright that men feel the goodness in your heart and become curious about the source. That’s when you’ll become the church… _
May you find a place that fills you to the overflow so that you can become the change this world so desperately needs.
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Tag someone who has helped protect your light and tell them thank you for pushing back darkness so that you can shine.

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We totally agree! What do you think of Sarah’s views?

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