Zimbabwean Media personality and producer, Vimbai Mutinhiri, recently revealed her boo on Instagram, and we must say, we are so surprised, as she has always been a private person. If you have been following her on social media, over time, you would have noticed that she would often hint about having a bae, but never outrightly revealed who he was.

Well, now the cat is out of the bag, as she recently took to Instagram to share a loved up photo of herself and her man, attending a pre-wedding cocktail.

Her followers were quick to congratulate her because apparently, they thought it was her wedding. But Vimbai quickly clarified by editing her caption, stating:

NB: ITS NOT MY WEDDING

No one knows his actual identity (i.e name, occupation, etc.) all we know is that he is Nigerian and he is FINE.

Great catch Vimbai! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness. We can already hear wedding bells ringing in the distance…

Nothing is more frustrating in dating than being ready for a relationship but having no clue where to meet the right man.

I believe that we are constantly crossing paths with the right people but we miss opportunities to connect with them. It’s not a matter of where to meet these wonderful men but how.

From my perspective, here are ways you can increase your chances of meeting the right man for you:

Believe

How can you find a man you don’t actually believe exists? Just as there is a lid for every pot, I believe there is a right guy for everyone. You can’t miss him; you can only block his energy from connecting with yours. To put it plainly, if you don’t expect to meet him, you won’t.

You have to believe that the right man for you is on his way into your life. Don’t let your negativity, doubt or past experiences cloud this belief. You have to hold firm to idea that the right man is out there and know with certainty that he is making his way into your life.

Prepare

I believe the reason we miss so many opportunities to meet potential dates is because we just aren’t prepared. Some days we feel like being invisible, we don’t want any attention from men. Other days we’re in a rush and we can’t be slowed down with interactions and engagements with strangers. How is the universe to know what you really want?

If you decide that you want to meet the right guy, set the stage by preparing to meet him. Be prepared by getting dressed for the occasion. Start accepting invitations you would normally decline. Position yourself in the best places to meet men. Base your decisions on the fact that it will happen instead of when.

Relax

Desperation is one of the least sexy qualities anyone can have. Instead of feeling anxious about who might be the right man for you, relax and enjoy dating. What you learn about yourself by being great company will prepare you for the right relationship.

Don’t stress yourself out trying to make every man you meet into a boyfriend. Don’t regard every situation as a personal failure if dating doesn’t lead to a relationship.

If you believe the right person for you is on their way then just relax and enjoy meeting new people. My theory on meeting new people is: They might not be the one but they might know the one. Don’t be afraid to form new friendships with men that could lead to meeting the man of your dreams.

Position

Once you adopt the right attitude, the best strategy for meeting men is location, location, location! If you aren’t placing yourself in the right environment to meet quality men then you might never get close to the guy meant for you.

It isn’t enough to merely wish to be in a relationship. You need to actually get out there and do something about it. First, take time out of your week to look for love. Choose locations that are generally littered with men, such as the men’s section of a department store, the gym, church, events, etc.

If you happen to pass a cute guy on the street or in a coffee shop, then say something. Don’t be afraid to create opportunities for yourself as well as be aware of chances all around you to make connections.

Meeting the right guy is a combination of attitude and action. Once you accept that your perfect match is out there, don’t be afraid to go out and find him!

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What steps have you been taking to meet the right guy? Let us know in the comments below!

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If these signs sound familiar, then it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship or put it to an end.

The thought of being single again excites you

After being with one person for a long time, you may find yourself exploring thoughts of being with other people, or just being single and “free” again. You flirt “innocently” with people you find attractive and say hi to your exes. It is one thing to notice that someone is attractive, but to think of waking up to them after a hot night, instead of your partner is a no-no. If this gets too much, you may end up doing something regrettable and hurt your relationship. As a result, it is probably best to be honest with yourself and your partner,

Your heart sinks when your partner calls or texts you

You should have a pleasant feeling when your partner calls or texts you unexpectedly when you are away from each other. There is nothing loving or affectionate about not wanting to speak to your partner or feeling down when you see a call or text from them. If you feel this way, then baby girl, it may be time to call it quits.

You never want to get intimate

Intimacy is a good way to judge the state of your relationship. When you love someone, their touch alone gets you turned on. Of course, Sex doesn’t define a relationship but it is vital to having a healthy one. If you find that you are no longer sexually attracted to your partner, you may need to sit down with them to figure out the true issue.

You do not enjoy spending time with your partner

They aren’t the first person you think of when you have some free time, and you would rather spend time with other friends or family.  Spending quality time with them feels awkward, as you never have anything to talk about. Let’s say you unexpectedly find yourself leaving work early, who would be the first person you call to hang out? Who do you really want to see? The first people that come to mind are those you care about the most and find important to you. If your partner isn’t one of them, well… do the math. You deserve a relationship with someone who will excite you, not a person you dread spending time with.

You get into frequent unhealthy fights over very minor issues

Yes, every couple fights. That’s not something to really worry about. However, you may find yourselves arguing over  the slightest things frequently. Or you may do relationship-sabotaging things e.g go through their private messages trying to find something to pick a fight about, etc. Fights should be settled with mature conversations. But when you or your partner acts destructively or attempts to inflict physical or emotional pain on the other, then it becomes an unhealthy relationship and one or both of you doesn’t have much love and respect for the relationship. At this point, you both have two options: Either have a genuine conversation and figure out how to work out your issues, or just say goodbye.

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