You’re wondering why your life doesn’t measure up to people’s lives on the ‘gram.

Perhaps the job interviews all seem futile, your home environment you is so frustrating, and your housemates are getting on your nerves. Maybe your rent is almost due and money seems look like a stranger these days. Do you feel alone, and feel like nothing is going well for you?

Yes, everyone is saying “this is my Year, I’m moving into another level but is this year really my year? Nothing seems to be working,” you’re thinking to yourself.

Well, I’ve got good news for you. Hang in there Queen! The fact that the year is starting on a rough note doesn’t mean that things will remain the same way. You only need to be strong and understand that life is not a competition.  You are moving at your own pace, no matter how slow. Eventually you will get to your destination. Everything will be fine.

Here are a few ways to help you stay strong doing these trying times. This worked for me, and I hope it works for you too:

• Remember if you are still breathing, it isn’t over yet. Appreciate your life no matter what your situation may be right now.
• Celebrate with others when they are happy about their milestones. This is not the time to get envious and bad-mouth them. Your time will come too, Queen.
• Understand that there are seasons in life. This trying season too will pass.
• Surround yourself with happy, grateful and positive girlfriends. Remember, you are the company you keep!  Please make sure you are in the right circle.
• Be yourself. No one is you and that’s your superpower. Hold on to your moral values.  Don’t go changing who you are because you are in a rush to attain some societal ideal.
• Work hard and Pray harder

Hey Queen, you’re gonna be just fine!

Photo Credit: The Body is Not an Apology

At the beginning of 2018, I had so many goals for myself. But I would put too much pressure on myself when I didn’t achieve those goals in the timeframe that I set for myself. Then I would get super stressed out. It wasn’t until sometime in mid 2018 that I actually became self-aware of this destructive pattern of behavior.

When I had that epiphany, I knew it was time to make a change. What I began to do was break down my goals into small chunks, and working on them at my own pace. Even though I would still set deadlines for myself, I wouldn’t beat myself up if I didn’t completely accomplish goals by these deadlines. I realized, that goals are always a work in progress really. As soon as you achieve one milestone, other desired milestones pop up, then you’re back striving to achieve more.

My advice to myself this year, and to you reading this, is to aim for progress and not perfection.

Cheers to an amazing 2019.