Marriage Archives - Queen moremi https://queenmoremi.com/category/relationships/marriage/ Fri, 17 Oct 2025 05:19:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 https://queenmoremi.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/cropped-IMG_9721-e1742886521891-32x32.png Marriage Archives - Queen moremi https://queenmoremi.com/category/relationships/marriage/ 32 32 Should Christian Women Still “Submit” in 2025? https://queenmoremi.com/2025/09/should-christian-women-still-submit-in-2025/ Wed, 17 Sep 2025 23:19:11 +0000 https://queenmoremi.com/?p=6342 Few words spark as much debate online as submission. Say it at brunch and suddenly everyone has an opinion. Some roll their eyes and call it outdated. Some weaponise it,…

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Few words spark as much debate online as submission. Say it at brunch and suddenly everyone has an opinion. Some roll their eyes and call it outdated. Some weaponise it, using it as code for “control your woman.” And then there are the memes: “Pick-me culture,” “soft life wives,” endless debates about who should cook, who should pay, who should kneel.

But here’s the thing: the Bible never presented submission as slavery. It was never a demand for women to shrink or silence themselves. Ephesians 5 says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” But just two verses down, the men are told: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

That’s not casual love. That’s sacrificial, protective, soul-deep love. And it puts as much weight, maybe even more, on the man as it does on the woman.

When you read the full passage, submission in marriage isn’t about losing your voice, blind obedience, or shrinking yourself. The Bible never presented it as slavery or silence. What it is about is partnership — two people carrying responsibility in different but equally important ways: one in loving leadership, the other in trusting support.

I’ll admit, the word used to make me uncomfortable. It felt like it erased individuality. But looking closer, I realised it’s not about erasing, it’s about reflecting. Reflecting love. Reflecting trust. Reflecting God’s design for unity that honours both voices.

The problem isn’t submission itself, it’s how we’ve misused it. Culture turned it into domination. Scripture calls it devotion.

So maybe the question isn’t should women still submit in 2025? Maybe it’s: are both of us willing to do the work — to love, to honour, to serve — the way God asked us to?

The Bible never asked women to lose themselves. It asked both men and women to give themselves.

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Is Consent Still Necessary When You’re Married? https://queenmoremi.com/2025/05/is-consent-still-necessary-when-youre-married/ Thu, 22 May 2025 12:42:49 +0000 https://queenmoremi.com/?p=5784 I used to think that once you’re married, consent sort of… stops being a conversation. Not because anyone said that directly, but because of the way people talk. Like, “Your…

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I used to think that once you’re married, consent sort of… stops being a conversation. Not because anyone said that directly, but because of the way people talk. Like, “Your body isn’t your own anymore,” or “Once you’re married, you have to be available.”

So I assumed saying yes would become automatic, expected. Even if you’re tired. Even if you’re not in the mood. Even if your head and heart aren’t in the same place. Because that’s what a good wife does, right?

But the more I think about it, the more I realize that idea doesn’t leave room for your humanity. Or your emotions. Or your safety. And it definitely doesn’t sound like love.

Yes, marriage is about giving. About serving. About showing up for each other. But that doesn’t erase the need for consent. Marriage doesn’t cancel boundaries — it invites a more sacred version of them. The kind where you choose each other again and again, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually too.

Consent in marriage isn’t just about “yes” or “no.” It’s about how and why you’re saying it. It’s not about withholding, but it’s also not about ignoring what you’re feeling. It’s okay to say: “I’m not in the right headspace right now, but can we talk about it?” or “I’m just tired right now.” That’s not rejection. That’s honesty. And healthy intimacy is built on that.

And husbands? This is for you, too. Consent isn’t just a “women’s thing.” It’s not just about asking, it’s about caring. Really caring. About what your wife needs, how she feels, and if she feels emotionally safe enough to show up.

No one’s saying turn your marriage into a permission slip. This isn’t about ticking boxes. It’s about staying tender, keeping intimacy mutual, and never letting expectations replace real connection.

Because the goal isn’t just sex, it’s oneness and that only thrives in places where both people feel seen, heard, and honored.

So yeah — consent still matters. Even in marriage. Especially in marriage.

 

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Can We Talk About How Normal Divorce Has Become? https://queenmoremi.com/2025/04/can-we-talk-about-how-normal-divorce-has-become/ Thu, 24 Apr 2025 12:37:26 +0000 https://queenmoremi.com/?p=5620 It feels like we don’t flinch anymore when we hear someone got divorced. It’s almost expected, like the natural next step after “it didn’t work out.” And while, yes, life…

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It feels like we don’t flinch anymore when we hear someone got divorced. It’s almost expected, like the natural next step after “it didn’t work out.” And while, yes, life is life and every story is different, can we at least be honest? Divorce has become… casual. Too casual.

This isn’t about shame. At all. Many people reading this may come from homes marked by divorce, or have been through it themselves. This isn’t a call-out. It’s a call-in. A conversation. Because if we’re going to talk about love, purpose, and kingdom living, we have to talk about how marriage fits into that and why so many of them are falling apart.

The real problem isn’t divorce, it’s everything we ignore on the way there. The problem starts way earlier. It’s in skipping red flags because we’re tired of being single. It’s in getting caught up in vibes, aesthetics, or pressure instead of purpose and character. It’s in thinking “I’ll fix him later” or “I’ll change once we’re married.” It’s in choosing someone we can post instead of someone we can pray with.

We talk so much about the wedding—what we’ll wear, what the hashtag will be, who’ll make the guest list—but not enough about the weight of what comes after the DJ packs up and the lace is folded away. Do you even like the person you’re marrying? Do they know God? Do they submit to God? Do you feel safe with their leadership, with their wounds, with their silence?

Again, this isn’t to say divorce is never justified. Abuse, infidelity, manipulation—these are real, heavy things. But outside of those, what we’re seeing more and more is people realizing, after marriage, what should have been addressed before it.

So what’s the answer? Not “just stay and endure.” The solution is deeper preparation. More honesty. Real conversations. Therapy. Premarital counseling that isn’t just ticking boxes. Asking hard questions like: “Can I grow with this person?” “Do we resolve conflict in a healthy way?” “Do I feel peace when I pray about them, or pressure?”

Christian marriages and how to reduce the rate of divorce

And if you’re already in the marriage and quietly wondering if it’s too late, breathe. This is for you, too. Sometimes the healing starts inside the covenant. Maybe what you need right now isn’t an exit, but a reset. A return to honesty. To counsel. To prayer. To unlearn what wasn’t healthy and relearn each other in a new light. It takes two, yes but if even one person starts leaning into the work, asking hard questions, and choosing growth, the atmosphere begins to shift. Don’t underestimate the power of humility, of asking for help, or of letting God reframe what you thought was finished.

We need to normalize waiting. Slowing down. Calling off engagements when the Holy Spirit says “no,” even if the wedding is six weeks away. We need to talk more about becoming the right person before obsessing over finding one. Because sometimes, it’s not that God hasn’t sent someone, it’s that we wouldn’t know how to steward the relationship if He did. Healing your wounds, breaking unhealthy patterns, learning how to communicate, how to apologize, how to be led, how to listen—these are the quiet, unglamorous things that prepare you for the loud beauty of love that lasts. It’s not just about praying for a good marriage. It’s about becoming someone who can carry one.

Because here’s the thing: marriage is beautiful. It’s holy. It’s worth desiring. But it’s also weighty. And we can’t keep pretending that “just winging it” is working. It’s not.

Let’s do it differently.

 

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It’s a Boy! Moses Bliss & Wife Marie are New Parents https://queenmoremi.com/2025/01/its-a-boy-moses-bliss-wife-marie-are-new-parents/ Fri, 10 Jan 2025 14:09:24 +0000 https://queenmoremi.com/?p=5174 Nigerian gospel artist Moses Bliss and his wife, Marie Bliss, are basking in the joy of parenthood as they welcome their baby boy into the world. Moses shared the heartwarming…

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Nigerian gospel artist Moses Bliss and his wife, Marie Bliss, are basking in the joy of parenthood as they welcome their baby boy into the world. Moses shared the heartwarming news across social media, leaving fans and well-wishers in awe.

The couple also released a series of breathtaking baby bump photos that captured the essence of this special journey. Marie radiated elegance and joy in every shot, while Moses stood proudly by her side, celebrating this exciting new chapter. Their love and faith shine brightly through these moments, inspiring many who have followed their story.

Moses Bliss, known for hits like Too Faithful, has long been an inspiration to many through his music. Now, this new chapter in his life serves as another reminder of God’s goodness and blessings.

Congratulations to the Bliss family on this beautiful addition. May their journey into parenthood be as harmonious and blessed as the music that has touched so many hearts.

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