As a self-proclaimed ‘feminist’ although I mostly like to think of myself as a ‘womanist’ more than I am the former, (I used to be ashamed of saying that so this is huge progress) I have to say that hearing Ayesha Curry announce her new cooking show with ABC gave me all the feels.
After just releasing a brand new cookware line, Ayesha, who is married to famous basketball player, Stephen Curry, made the announcement that she will be making her return to television with a new reality-style cooking competition called Family Food Fight. Variety reports that the program will debut on ABC, and that families will stand a chance of winning as much as $100,000.
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Here lies a woman who is Godly, driven, married, a mother of two with one baking in the oven, getting it done! Not only that, she is wife of an incredibly successful basketball player – perhaps, even one of the most successful of his time. This made me sit back to reflect on my version of feminism (seeing as there seem to be several floating around lately) and my ideal life as a woman of colour, a one-day wife and mother as the latter two are roles I would love to play in future.
Many African female kids have grown up with the notion that as a female you cannot aspire to be certain things and definitely not all things. It isn’t foreign to hear things like: “I will move where my future husband decides to live” even from girls who are pre-teen or statements like: “It depends on my future husband,” because we’re taught so early in life that success is a function of one partner with the other playing a supportive role in just being present in their success and a woman cannot really aspire to her own success and shouldn’t especially where the man is hugely successful in his own right.
Ayesha Curry defies that.
She is proof that your husband can go out and bag himself some coins but you can too and maybe you should.
My version of feminism, if I may put it to you, allows women to make their own choices even if that’s Meghan Markle giving up her role as Rachel Zane in Suits to get married to a prince, or it’s Ayesha bagging deals even whilst pregnant, because she wants it. It is testament that we need to give ourselves credit for being ingenious beings because think about it, if we can carry actual human beings into the world, how much more can we do when we truly set our minds to it?
You can have it all. You just need to define what your version of ‘all’ is. I am particularly inspired by Ayesha Curry because her ‘all’ seems all to similar to mine. What’s yours?
